Yura, my husband makes me aware to my inability to say no. Sometimes when I get an invite to something I know I can’t go to it will take me so long to reply. I hate saying no. I love saying Yes so I say it all the time. It gets me in trouble because eventually I have to say no or say yes but then dread that I said it and do it while dreading it, which is in my eyes the worst case scenario. I am not lying when I say Yes but when I end up saying no sometimes, it means that I lied.
So I am going to my rule that I got from a great life coach, Eli Davidson. I think she is pretty famous now. She said one week that I need to say no to at least 6 things a day. Six things, I thought, that’s a lot of things. I also do not want to do something, but I guess she knew me better. Some things were simple like I say no to watching a movie tonight because I want to write in my journal. Somethings had more ties, like saying no to a friends gallery opening because I know I have so much going on that week. I did it for a week and it was remarkable, I still did a lot of stuff, but I felt space.
I guess its not the time that is lacking for me, its space in time. Today I said no 4 times. And I crawled with Isaiah on the floor for an hour acting like a big truck and then a choo choo train. We laughed a lot. Space.